Do you want to get better at what you do?
Of course you do!
We’re all wired to want to be better, but sometimes it’s hard to see beyond our current situations.
“I’m good where I am.”
“I’m fine doing this the way I have been.”
“I’m so friggin good, I can’t get any better.”
Listen, we’re all biased. We don’t always mean to be, but it can be difficult to get a different perspective on ourselves when we spend 24/7 looking through our own eyes. To get better, however, that new perspective is necessary… Maybe a few new perspectives.
When I write a script, I never submit it without asking someone else for their opinion on how I can make it better. This is the first time that person is seeing this script I’ve read over and over for the last week, so chances are, they’re going to see it differently.
That’s the key benefit of asking for feedback.
A common misconception of receiving feedback is that you have to do what the other person suggests. If multiple people who aren’t in contact with each other have the same ideas, that’s definitely a sign you should do something, but if one person says, “Cut this line,” I always make sure to take a step back and ask myself:
“Is keeping this line making my script better?”
“Is it true to the character?”
“Does it advance the action or positively contribute to a joke?”
Whether I choose to keep the line or not, I was able to see the script through new eyes, explore new possibilities, and build my self-awareness, which are all necessary steps to create personal growth.
No matter what you’re working on and no matter what the person offering feedback says, he or she has provided you with a new vantage point and, from there, you can access a new level of self-awareness.* You now have new options and can decide whether to get other opinions, use the feedback, or ignore the feedback, but either way, be grateful to the other person for helping you glimpse a fresh perspective and contribute to your growth.
*Although if they call you an asshole and to never talk again, you may want to reconsider who you get your feedback from.